Quotes for parents
January 01, 2013
From the Pacesetter Winter 2013 Publication:
“Need a fresh outlook for the New Year?”
Sometimes a good quote can offer hope or a fresh perspective, something any parent can use from time to time. At the start of this New Year, Pacer’s parent advocates are passing along a few favorite sayings that have been helpful to them.
As parents of children with disabilities themselves, these quotes have provided words of wisdom and practical help for the advocates. So say a toast to new beginnings, and find your own fresh perspective for 2013.
SHOOT FOR THE MOON. EVEN IF YOU MISS, YOU’LL LAND AMONG THE STARS
While having high expectations for my son and advocating for them in his IEP did not always ensure that we would “get what we were asking for,” it did greatly increase the chances that we would be closer to the target than we would have been had we not aimed high. Barb Ziemke
IF ALL YOU HAVE IS A HAMMER, EVERTHING LOOKS LIKE A NAIL
We need to have a “toolbox” full of strategies to use when problem-solving, particularly as it relates to children with challenging behaviors. Judy Swett
HE WHO THINKS HE KNOWS, DOESN’T KNOW. HE WHO KNOWS HE DOESN’T KNOW, KNOWS. Dalai Lama
Having a child with an emotional or behavioral disorder is challenging because the behavior is not telling us what the child needs. When parents and schools struggle with a child’s negative behaviors, it is important to discover WHY the behavior is happening and teach to that need. The behavior is almost always a manifestation of an unmet need.
I often remind parents and schools to ask the question, ‘Why can’t the child do the preferred behavior, not why won’t the child do the preferred behavior?’ We need to assume first that we do not know, and then, by not knowing, we will know. Renelle Nelson
YOU CANNOT HURRY THE RIVER
This reminds me that I need to enjoy my child and know that everything is not about a projected outcome that is totally dependent on how hard I work at it. Virginia Richardson
SAY WHAT YOU MEAN, MEAN WHAT YOU SAY, AND SAY IT AS SELDOM AS POSSIBLE Foster Cline
As a parent of children with disabilities, I had to learn to parent my children in a much different way than I had expected or planned. This quote helped me remember to limit my number of words and maximize the impact of those (few) words. Carolyn Anderson